Healing Resources
When De-De was in the middle of her marriage, she didn't have a roadmap. She didn't have language for what was happening. She didn't have the tools to help her see clearly or believe in herself when her reality was constantly being questioned.
These resources aren't about diagnosing anyone or replacing professional help. They're meant to help you recognize patterns, understand what's really going on, and take the first steps toward trusting yourself again.
Read what resonates. Share what helps. Take your time. Healing isn't linear, and neither is this journey. Whether you're still in the situation, recently out, or years into rebuilding, there's something here for you.
Tools for Healing From the Book
Resources That Can Help
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
De-De isn’t a therapist, and this book isn’t a replacement for professional help. But she knows what it’s like to need support and not know where to find it. These are the organizations, hotlines, books, and tools she trusts—because healing takes a village, and asking for help is the bravest thing you can do.
Crisis & Support Hotlines
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 | thehotline.org
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Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
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National Alliance for Eating Disorders Helpline: 1-866-662-1235
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SAMHSA National Helpline (substance abuse & mental health): 1-800-662-4357
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LoveIsRespect.org: Resources specifically for relationship abuse
Recommended Books
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Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
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Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie
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Whole Again by Jackson MacKenzie
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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
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Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Ramani Durvasula
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Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare by Shahida Arabi
Therapy
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Psychology Today Therapist Finder: psychologytoday.com
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BetterHelp — online therapy: betterhelp.com
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Open Path Collective — affordable therapy for those without insurance: openpathcollective.org
Podcasts
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Narcissist Apocalypse Podcast
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The Little Shaman Podcast
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Breaking Free From Narcissistic Abuse Podcast
Safety Planning
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Create A Safety Plan: thehotline.org/plan-for-safety
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If You’re In Immediate Danger, Call 911
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Keep Important Documents (ID, Financial Records, Medications) In A Safe Place Outside The Home
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Tell One Trusted Person Your Situation — Isolation Is The Abuser’s Greatest Tool
Important Disclaimer
This website and its resources are provided for educational and informational purposes only. De-De is sharing her personal journey, lived experience, and recovery process—not dispensing medical, psychological, legal, or professional advice of any kind.
Not Professional Medical or Mental Health Advice
The information presented on this website about narcissistic personality disorder, trauma responses, abuse dynamics, and recovery does not constitute—and should not be used as a substitute for—professional diagnosis, treatment, or counseling. If you're experiencing abuse, trauma, mental health crises, or related issues, please seek guidance from qualified professionals including licensed therapists, counselors, medical doctors, or appropriate authorities.
Personal Experiences
The content on this website reflects De-De's personal experiences and perspective. While based on true events, certain details have been changed to protect privacy.
Resources & Support
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or abuse:
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org
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Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
De-De believes in your strength and your right to safety. Reaching out for professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.